Notes from the Petting Zoo

…Is that we equate sex with intimacy.

Then we equate intimacy with privacy.

Then we equate privacy with secrets.

Then we equate secrets with “bad stuff”.

So, we end up with sex = “bad stuff”.

This is fine if you subscribe to a restrictive sexuality, but if you don’t, then you run into this unfortunate equation on occasion. An example of the manifestation of it is: “If you’re having sex with someone, it’s bad (unless there’s a good reason that overcomes the badness).”

It would be nice to deprogram that equivalency.

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